I have been getting cards, and letters from Hospice telling me I am not on my own, and that a counselor is available to me.
I have been so busy dealing with all the paperwork, phone calls, and visits to offices that I have been having my emotions build up inside of me. I hadn’t opened up to anyone. So I finally called, and as the only time the lady could make it was after office hours, she came to my home. I am so pleased that she did, because once I started talking, the tears started flowing, and everything from the last 6 months came out.
She told me that so many caregivers go with spouses or partners to their doctor, and tell them that they are not coping, as the patient is getting worse, and the doctor doesn’t contact Hospice. Even if the doctor isn’t sure, it is down to Hospice to send someone out to that person to evaluate them. They may not need the service immediate, but have been taken seriously. In most cases, such as Len’s he would have been taken on immediately. He could have been years ago due to his chronic heart failure, stage 4 kidney failure, insulin dependent diabetic, just to name a few.
I found myself crying while going over all that has happened this last few months. I have been holding it in, and an hour just flew by. I couldn’t thank her enough for listening to my babbling on, and she said it was totally natural. I am going to their office in 2 weeks times to have another chat.
I honestly didn’t realize how much I needed it.